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Glenn Lutjens

Glenn is a licensed family therapist who’s been on the Focus counseling team for 23 years. Prior to joining Focus, he spent time in church counseling and pastoral ministry. He and his wife, Elizabeth, have three young adult children. Glenn loves Jesus, has an affinity for lasagna and cheers for the Oakland Raiders.

Why Isn’t My Husband the Person I Thought He Was?

When you were dating, he was attractive and neat. Now he doesn’t even pick up after himself. What should you do?

A couple holds hands on an autumn afternoon.

Viewing Your Husband in a New Light

After the wedding, it’s common to view your spouse in a new, perhaps disappointing light. Here’s what you can do about it.

Wife ponders whether she married the wrong man as he sleeps in background

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

Marriage is not primarily about finding the right spouse. It’s about being the right person.

A woman sitting on a couch with a thoughtful expression, looking away from a man in the background who appears to be talking. This scene could represent red flags in a relationship, where communication might be strained or there could be underlying issues.

Red Flags in a Relationship

When we’re excited about a relationship, it’s easy to overlook the red flags that at least need to be explored.

Spiritual Red Flags

Divorce If your friend was mar …

woman in white shirt standing in field smiling

How Content Are You As a Single?

If you experienced a low level of contentment as a single, expecting marriage to propel you to marital bliss probably won’t happen.

A couple sitting apart on a couch with their arms crossed and looking away from each other, representing a moment of disagreement. This scene can symbolize how healthy conflict in marriage requires space and time for both partners to reflect on their feelings.

Emotional Red Flags

Angry I’m not talking about on …

Interpersonal Red Flags

Non-Affectionate This is not t …

Character Red Flags

Controlling Your friend can ma …

A young bride and groom sit in a field, holding a cut-out of a house, signifying their marriage hopes and dreams. But what if your marriage is not meeting your expectations?

Why Isn’t Marriage the Way I Thought It Would Be?

The fairytale wedding is over and the realities of married life are sinking in. Are you missing the “happily ever after?”

Living With Healthy Grief

Learn how to deal with the grief that comes from the death of a loved one or from divorce. It includes the stages of grief and provides teens with ideas on how to walk through the process of grief after a loss.

When You May Need to End a Relationship

Even if we’ve confronted a con …

Addressing Red Flags in a Relationship

At this point you might be won …

Ask the Tough Questions About Your Relationship

Questions to Ask Yourself Am I …

What to Look For in a Relationship

Sometimes when it comes to add …

How Can I Change My Spouse?

Before you married, you saw shadows of irritating behaviors, but figured you’d get used to them over time. Well, you haven’t.

Older husband looking distressed next to wife

Are We Falling Out of Love?

Sustaining the emotional excitement of romance can be difficult at best.