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Healthy Conflict

Four friends, two men and two women, smiling and taking a selfie together. They sometimes wonder about the Bible's stance on if men and women can be friends.

The Billy Graham Rule: Can Men and Women Be Friends?

God wants us to have friends. And that can include having opposite-sex friendships. But those friendships should come with boundaries.

Why Isn’t My Husband the Person I Thought He Was?

When you were dating, he was attractive and neat. Now he doesn’t even pick up after himself. What should you do?

The Hidden Value of Conflict

Rather than making it our goal to resolve arguments, we must learn how to manage our conflicts.

The Power of Healthy Conflict

Healthy conflict can actually take your marriage to deeper levels of intimacy.

A man and a woman stand pressing their foreheads against each other lovingly and with joy in their hearts. Our childhood experiences and the way our parents related to us have imprinted certain love styles and behaviors on us.

How Childhood Experiences Impact Love Styles

Our childhood experiences and relationships with our parents affect the way we relate to our spouses. There are five unhealthy love styles we develop as a result of our trauma as kids. Here’s how to identify each.

Bible Verses About Healing

The scriptures are overflowing with Bible verses about healing. We experience various types of wounds throughout our lifetime. Broken hearts, shattered spirits, and contentious family ties and relationship are among them. However, there are scriptures that apply to every type of wound we might experience in our lifetime.You or someone you know may be experiencing …

A man and a woman sit on a long couch, refusing to look at each other. Avoiding Conflict in Marriage is not healthy for your relationship.

Avoiding Conflict is Unfair to Your Marriage

Avoiding conflict in marriage isn’t fair to yourself or your spouse. Learning to embrace and resolve conflict healthily leads to a better marriage.

A young couple sit on a couch in conflict. Healthy conflict in marriage is key to loving your spouse.

Embrace Healthy Conflict as a Way to Love Your Spouse

There’s not necessarily any one right way to handle and resolve conflict – but, be assured that there are some mindsets, behaviors and attitudes you should avoid in this area of your marriage.

Fighting can help your marriage if you learn to have healthy conflict. A man and woman in a fight, The man pleads his case as the woman looks away, arms folded across her chest.

How Fighting Can Help Your Marriage

Healthy conflict can facilitate communication, understanding, trust and respect if we choose to manage our differences and disagreements in nourishing ways.

A young couple sit on the couch with their arms around each other. Validation in your marriage is key to conflict resolution.

Validation in Marriage is the Third Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.

Validation is safely allowing your spouse to share his or her thoughts and feelings. The message is that it’s okay to think and feel the way he or she does.

Photo of a man actively listening to his spouse to strengthen their relationship.

Listening is the First Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.

Active listening is a powerful tool in any relationship, but is an essential skill in marriage.

A young couple sits on the couch, with the woman putting an understanding arm on the man's shoulder.

Understanding is the Second Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.

Couples often find themselves in avoidable conflict. But how can you avoid it?

An angry young couple sit on a couch engaged in a heated argument.

What Does the Bible Say about Fighting in Marriage?

It’s normal to have conflict — and it’s unavoidable. According to the Bible, what matters most is how you handle the fighting in your marriage.

Photo of a woman initiating a conversation with her husband as they sit at a table in front of large windows while the man sips coffee and listens to her.

10 Tips for Initiating a Conversation with Your Spouse

If you’re having difficulty initiating conversations with your spouse, these 10 tips might make the process easier.

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Find Your Hot-Button Issues to Improve Your Marriage

Couples often unknowingly push each other’s hot-button issues and cause frustrating arguments. Learn how you can stop this reactive cycle.

Is Your Marriage Worth Imitating?

Our kids are constantly watching us, and how we treat our spouse is probably how our children will treat their own spouse someday. Your marriage is your child’s blueprint for intimacy and relationships.

Are You a Selfish Spouse?

Although he wasn’t willing to admit it at first, Dr. Greg Smalley felt that God was making him aware of how selfishness causes issues in his marriage. Greg shares some of the things he’s learned.

Mr. and Mrs. Clean

Your marriage, like your home, needs a seasonal cleaning to sweep away the irritants that settle in. Whether you need a dusting or a deep spring-cleaning, the result of your efforts can be refreshing!

Faith Conversation: Living Peaceably

We all have colleagues, family members or friends who seem difficult to get along with. Unfortunately, the turmoil caused by our struggles with these people often overflows into our other relationships. 

Talking About Touchy Topics

As a husband, you don’t want to ignore issues, but you don’t want to be a bully. How can you find a healthy balance? Think CR-V: compliment, request and value.